What is a Loving Relationship like for You? How do I know I am loved, how do I see
love, feel loved, how do I tell? How do we communicate our love and our loving? Of
course you don’t expect to get all this from one person and you can’t get any one
connection all of the time, but each experience can help make the the relationship
stronger. THINK OF ONE PERSON OR RELATIONSHIP ONLY AS YOU WORK
Page One - EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED (PERSONAL ‘BEING’ ENERGY)
1. I feel comfortable and safe when we are together, we both enjoy sharing and understanding
each other’s personal feelings, freely and openly. We share a wide range of positive
and negative emotions, we both feel heard when we talk, both share positive affirmations
or strokes, validating each other, making time for each other, paying attention to
each other. I feel emotionally connected.
2. I feel an intimate connection - I feel safe to reveal and share the deepest innermost
parts of our personalities with each other, being truly vulnerable with each other,
an unconditional ‘unafraid heartfelt connection’ (Sogyal Rinpoche) Our levels of
self-disclosure, are similar and compatible. so we feel safe and can make it safe
for each of us to confront problems affecting the relationship and reveal our underlying
vulnerability to eachother. We can let go of our defences and surrender to love.
3. We share sensations - sharing the experience of what we are touching, seeing,
hearing, smelling and tasting around us including sexual and non-sexual sensations
4. We share the joy of togetherness, a shared sense of deep loving, a romantic connection
and affection, luminance, zing, the essence of love. Words can’t describe how I
feel, I just light up and feel warm wonderful joyful feelings, I feel special when
we are together or even just thinking about my partner, we use special names/words
to express our love or endearment for each other
5. I feel safe with my partner when something triggers my underlying vulnerability
- we each help nurture and reduce vulnerability for ourself and our partner, but
not asking partner to take over protection of other person’s vulnerability. My inner
child feels equally safe and secure when near my partner or when separated
6. Energetic intuitive linkage -we are linked intuitively, we have a special sense
of a mutual energetic connection, a linkage even when apart, as described in “Partnering”
7. We share a spiritual connection (not the same as shared ‘religion’). We can both
tune in and connect to the soul or spirit within us as well as the universal energy
of positive love outside of us which joins us all. I am comfortable about exchanging
this kind of (non-sexual) love with my close friends as well as my with my partner
and I know my partner is comfortable about this kind of sharing too.
We share a similar philosophy about the meaning of life and similar or compatible
visions for how we would like to grow together in the future
